6 Ways the Sandwich Generation Can Plan for The Future

Anyone experiencing the struggle of simultaneously caring for children and aging parents is part of the sandwich generation. Although “generation” is part of the phrase, it doesn’t refer to people born at a specific time. Typically, these family caregivers will be in the 30- to 40-year-old age range, providing for their families and balancing care duties between the needs of children and parents.

Trends That Led to an Increasing Sandwich Generation

The rise in the numbers in the sandwich generation is a byproduct of two influential trends: Women are giving birth later in life, and the senior population is increasing. A third contributing factor was the COVID-19 pandemic and the fear of placing aging parents into long-term care facilities where viruses spread easily in communities of people with declining health. Many families pivoted to caring for their loved ones at home.

If this sounds familiar, you are not alone. You are most likely experiencing significant anxiety and stress as you juggle school and activities for your children, expectations at work, changing family dynamics, and daily caregiver duties. Though this is a challenging time in your life, it doesn’t have to be as hard as it seems. There are steps to take to minimize frustration.

6 Ways for Caregivers of the Sandwich Generation to Plan

  1. Start by reprioritizing daily routines. If there seems to be an overwhelming number of tasks to accomplish in a day, prioritize between urgent and non-urgent categories to determine what needs to be addressed first.
  2. Make time for self-care to avoid caregiver burnout. Focusing on basics like nutritious meals, adequate sleep, and exercise will serve you and your loved ones well.
  3. Know your rights at your workplace. Programs like the Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA) offer job security to those taking a leave of absence for family medical reasons. While it’s not a paid benefit, you will maintain access to your health insurance benefits for up to 12 weeks off. If you haven’t already, explore working remotely to put you in the same physical location as those you care for in your home.
  4. Share your feelings about the challenges you are facing and get extra help when you need it. Talking things through with family members can better manage everyone’s expectations. There are also forums and community resources that can put you in touch with others in the sandwich generation, where you can share information and offload burdens.
  5. Make an honest evaluation of your available financial resources before determining a new course of action.
    • Are your parents able to pay for their care on their own, even within your own home?
    • Do they carry long-term care insurance or whole life insurance policies with living benefits?
    • Are other family members willing to contribute financially, or is a public assistance option viable?
  6. Talk things through with your parents about their preferences and abilities to pay for health care services. Discuss ideas with siblings and figure out who can help provide care and whose home provides the best solution. If external help is a must, research local possibilities and costs.

Preparing Estate Planning Documents

It’s an excellent idea to consult an estate planning attorney about legal documents if a sudden financial or medical decision presents itself. You need to have the legal power to make important decisions for your aging parents and minor children.

Your parents may need more help as their health declines or they experience dementia. You may need to renovate your home as your parents age for their comfort and safety, or eventually look for professional services and facilities. Also, review your retirement savings and other investments that can protect your children’s lifestyle and future.

  • College funds need to be a priority, as is a 401(k) plan if your place of employment offers one.
  • Consider the purchase of a term or whole life insurance policy to protect your family’s future in the event a tragedy affects your ability to care for your family.
  • Start an emergency fund to help cover incidental costs, unexpected medical bills, and a potential long-term hospital stay. Unexpected costs can throw off your budget.

If your sandwich generation status continues for an extended time, re-evaluate your finances periodically. Goals will change, and updating your estate plan (and your parents’ estate plan, too) may help you stay on track to meet your family’s long-term goals.

Money management and estate planning are critical elements to creating a mutually beneficial living experience as part of the sandwich generation. While this may not be the easiest time of your life with the extra demands placed on you, it’s possible to manage and even thrive with adequate planning.

Speak with an attorney who is familiar with structuring these types of plans. Find a qualified estate planning attorney in your area today. They educate families about issues faced by seniors who may be experiencing declining health, evaluate health care facilities and services, and provide family resources for caregiver support.

2023 AARP Report Recommends Supports for Family Caregivers

Many older Americans choose to have their family members care for them as they age. Despite the comfort a familiar face may provide, there is a significant cost for the loved ones who sacrifice their time, and often their upward economic mobility, to ensure that they can secure proper care for their senior parent.

In a report issued in March 2023, AARP stresses the importance of supporting family caregivers in their financial, emotional, physical, and professional lives. The analysis gives a glimpse into the experiences of family caregivers and also offers recommendations on policies, practices, and programs – across public as well as private realms – that policymakers should consider enacting or enhancing in support of caregivers and the individuals who are in their care.

How Much Does It Cost to Be a Family Caregiver?

Being a family caregiver can come at a great financial cost. The average cost of caregiving has risen exponentially in the past several years, and the trend is expected to increase more over time.

In its report, AARP estimates the value of family caregiving in 2021 at $600 billion dollars in unpaid contributions – up from $470 billion dollars in 2017.

The monetary value of caregiving is not the only cost of care. For family caregivers, some of the intangible costs of included:

  • spending an average of 18 hours per week to tend to the needs of their loved ones
  • facing higher risks of chronic loneliness, which may have negative health effects
  • neglecting their own self-care

What Are the Major Issues in Family Caregiving?

According to the AARP report, by 2034, the population of people over 65 will outnumber the population of children under 18. With this historic shift, the researchers suggest that the impact on family caregiving will become even more prominent in several key areas:

The Need for Tailored Support for Diverse Caregivers and Their Families

Family caregivers across diverse cultures, ethnicities, sexual orientations, and gender identities often face concerns about access to support that is specific to their community. Ensuring that affordable, inclusive, readily available policies and services are in place to meet these needs of these caregivers will continue to be critical.

Direct Care Workforce Shortage

Amid a shortage of professional caregivers that only worsened during the COVID-19 pandemic, AARP notes that the turnover rate among the direct care workforce averages between 40 percent and 60 percent each year. Failing to recruit and retain a dedicated workforce in caregiving as the aging population grows will inevitably add to the burden carried by unpaid family caregivers.

Economic Impact on Working Caregivers

Most family caregivers – nearly two-thirds of them in 2019, according to AARP – hold a full- or part-time job in addition to caring for their loved ones. These workers often take an economic hit because they need to split their time between their jobs and their home responsibilities.

Without such supports as telecommuting, paid leave, and respite care, they may have no choice but to call out of work, turn down promotions, or even leave their job altogether to dedicate themselves fully to providing care. This can then mean additional financial stress as well as adverse effects on their career and future earning potential.

A Growing Sandwich Generation

In 2019, about 30 percent of older Americans were living with their children or grandchildren. The so-called “sandwich” generation represents those who are responsible for caring for their children and their aging parents at the same time, while also working. These caregivers, who are likely to report more emotional and financial pressure, now tend to include workers across an ever-expanding age span – from 35 to 64.

Recommendations

The AARP’s report recommends specific policies and practices to support family caregivers going forward. These recommendations to policymakers include the following:

  • Including family caregivers in planning and decision making across health care settings
  • Improving access to respite care for family caregivers
  • Ensuring that publicly funded programs and supports for caregivers are inclusive, culturally appropriate, and designed to meet the needs of diverse populations
  • Offering family caregivers a tax credit
  • Expanding protections for workers who rely on the Family and Medical Leave Act and related state programs while providing long-term care for family members, including instituting paid leave for working family caregivers
  • Allowing for other programs that pay family caregivers
  • Improving Social Security benefits for people who provide long-term care services to family members

Additional Resources

Having a care plan in place for your loved ones in advance may help decrease the financial costs and other stresses associated with paying for long-term care for aging adults. Your elder law attorney can help you create a comprehensive long-term care plan that will address the costs associated with tending to the people you love.